the old me, from few years back, would have rolled my eyes, snort with ridicule, or might even flare with anger when i hear a dear girlfriend share her story of the possesive partner; "don't do this, don't do that, don't go here, don't go there, don't meet her/him/them/us, don't wear this, don't put that on blah blah blah"..get my drift?..

it's not that i feel the need to be defensive of my girlfriends or anything like that. in fact, i am aware that i have absolutely no say in other's BGR. or GGR. or whatever la for that matter. but OH PUH-LEASE!!!

and the old me used to look down, or more like, hated girls who dumbly listened to, and followed anything and everything the partner says or tells her to do; girls who simply cannot make any decisions without consulting her partner, seeking their OKs beforehand; girls who place even their oldest and closest friends in second place, after her partner; girls who cry after a row with her partner as if the world has come to an end; girls who would rather die than being separated from her partner; girls who cannot stand being single and always always had to have someone by her side. basically girls who cannot stand on her own two fucking feet.

and then now.

now, i take a step back and realise what great ways God has, in teaching us lessons.